FIRSTLY - YOU OBVIOUSLY AREN'T A DUMMY, OTHERWISE YOU WOULDN'T HAVE GOT HERE
So congratulations! you've just taken another step towards taking control of your own destiny
Some people believe the best way to help themselves is by helping others, indeed, this is a fairly common theme in mainstream religions.
There again, there are some who would argue that you can't possibly help others without first taking control of your own life - that is to say, by helping yourself.
Whatever your point of view, you should find something on this site that is of value. If you agree, please tell others about it as well.